The Secret Life of the American Teenager

Benjamin "Ben" Boykewich is the son of Leo Boykewich and Sarah Helen Boykewich. He was also the father of Mercy Boykewich, whom he shared with his ex-wife Adrian Lee. He is the brother of Chloe Boykewich. He is portrayed by Ken Baumann.


In the beginning of the series, Ben is pining over Grace, a pretty blonde cheerleader going out with the popular football player, Jack Pappas. Ben begins to pursue Amy after his best friends, Alice and Henry, point her out at school. Ben is rashly decides to join the band in order to connect with Amy, however its clear that he wasn't the best awt the cymbals.

He initially wants to confront Amy about her alleged past relationship and sexual contact with Ricky, but then decides against it after his guidance counselor points out that it's none of his business. Ben and his former guidance counselor, Marc Molina had a very close friendship.

His father Leo is the first person to suspect Amy's pregnancy due to her throwing up on Ben while on a date and her large appetite. He initially dismissed the idea but realizes that it may be a possibility and tells Ben.

This realization causes Ben to propose to Amy, hoping that he can help Amy and financially support her and the baby as he has genuinely fallen in love with her. Amy cries hysterically at the proposal and later explains that although flatter by his actions, she is unsure of what to do.

When Amy considers getting an abortion, Ben convinces her not to because he knows that she has other options, and even resorts to telling characters such as the school guidance counselor that the child is his baby. He experiences a lot of hardship during Amy's pregnancy; particularly when he is brutally beaten up by a fellow student, but remains to be a loving and supportive boyfriend.

In the season one episode, The Secret Wedding of the American Teenager, Ben, and Amy get married using fake ID's after her mother says that Amy will have to get a job if she wants to keep the baby. This makes Amy decide to convince Ben to marry her, in orders so they can be together, and keep Ricky from the baby. They invite many of the kids to the wedding including Ricky, who claims to be dating Grace, but later sleeps with Adrian. George Juergens and Leo Boykewich show up and shut the party down.

Later in the series, Ben loses his virginity to Adrian in an act to comfort one another and get revenge against Ricky and Amy for kissing, and taking them both for granted. It is later revealed that Adrian is pregnant. During this time Ricky forces Ben to get back with Amy, but later interferes in his relationship with Amy and causes their break up after both discover Adrian's pregnancy. Although Ben supports any decision Adrian makes about her pregnancy, he is surprised she decides to keep the baby. He then tells Amy and they break up.

By the third season's mid-season finale, it is shown that Ben and Adrian have developed romantic feelings for one another. It is noticed by viewers that Ben, is a hopeless romantic. This can be seen as caused by Leo's influence who has the same affliciton. Leo is very misleading in many of Ben's relationships although he is usually the one who convinces Ben to marry both Amy and Adrian, and later regrets the idea. Leo also never spoke with any of Ben's partners about their feelings for him accept Dylan, who unlike Amy and Adrian had genuine feelings for Ben, and showed she had no interest in Leo's money which heavily influenced Amy and Adrian's interest in Ben. It is later revealed Bena nd Adrian are having a baby girl which is what Ben was hoping for. His father bought a condo for the two of them, and they later get married. This is the second time in the series that Ben was married to a character that primarily used him to help her, but had no real feelings for him. Both Amy and Adrian received physical, mental, and emotional support from Ben to help with their situations. Unfortunately it can be seen that Ben received nothing from Amy or Adrian accept skepticism despite both having supported Ricky mentally, physically, and emotionally, even though it can be said Ricky caused many of the problems that Amy and Adrian suffered from.

Their daughter, Mercy was stillborn which left Adrian and Ben devastated. He later decides he wants out of the marriage due to Adrian's attitude. He admits it very harshly to Adrian after she gave away their baby's things.

After his outbursts to Adrian, he then gets drunk and humiliates himself in front of his father, but he later begins to recant his decision after having time to vent his frustration.

Adrian later decides that she doesn't want to be married to him and asks him to leave, leaving Ben brokenhearted and he asks to remain friends with her. Ben allows her to keep the condo with his father's approval.

Ben continues to keep his word of being her friend to her after she is embarrassed at the graduation party. He also meets a new girl named Dylan, who seems be interested in him.

Alice tells Ben that Henry slept with Adrian at the graduation party which enrages him and prompts him to tell Henry that he is no longer welcome at his home.

Dylan and her friends visit Ben and ask if he minds if they smoke some pot.

Ben is taken aback but doesn't want to appear judgmental, so he allows them to smoke in his room. They are discovered by Ben's and Dylan's parents and Ben lies to protect Dylan and tells them that he was given the pot at the party the night before. Ben and Dylan convince their parents that they should go out together.

In the school hallway, Ben tells Amy that he still loves her, but Dylan's friend Wendy overhears and ater tells Dylan. Dylan still wants to go out with Ben, but her parents don't want her to because they think he's a bad influence. But it's revealed she and her friends were a bad influence with drug use, and her part in burning down her school. Ben tries to end it, but Dylan proves to be just as deceitful, and underhanded as Amy and Adrian. Later they break up because Dylan also proves to be more honorable than Amy and Adrian as unlike them she had genuine feelings for Ben and wants him to be happy even if it's not with her. So she and her friends leave Grant High to attend school else where. She and Ben later reconnect at both their parents urging, but decide to only be friends.

After the season finale he and Amy finally get back together but despite his best efforts, he accepts that they were not meant to be together even if Amy hadn't gotten pregnant. Because he realizes Amy was a selfish, and manipulative person whom he could never trust. Eventually, he gets over Amy and decides to write a best-selling novel based on his experience with Amy and the rest. He continues writing throughout his pursuit of a degree in literature. It is not known about the relationship he has with his father, Amy, Adrian, or anyone else from his past. However he continues to visit the graves of his mother and daughter on the anniversary of their deaths. It can be easily assumed that he does this alone, since no one else including his father showed interest or concern.



Amy Juergens First Relationship


Second Relationship

Third relationship:

  • Start: Post-series
  • End: Post-series
    • Reason: They didn't have the same chemistry as before, which led Amy to realize she was in love with Ricky.

Adrian Lee

First Relationship

Second Relationship

Adrian and Ben began to have an intimate encounter when they sleep together to get back at their ex's (Amy and Ricky) because of a kiss, lies, feelings of betrayal, and un-appreciation that Amy and Ricky made them feel.

Adrian later discovers that she is pregnant and reveals it to Ben in the episode Ben There, Done That.

They get married in It's Not Over Till It's Over and buys a condo together. Later, their daughter is stillborn which puts a strain on their relationship and they divorce in Strange Familiar.


Dylan is introduced during the graduation party. Henry points her out and Ben goes after her. Ben's dad and Dylan's parents catch Dylan and her friends smoking marijuana in Ben's room and they are forbidden to see each other.

After some convincing, they are allowed to go out again but they accidentally burn down Dylan's school, and they are forbidden to see each other again.

Even though her friend, Wendy, told her that she overheard Ben telling Amy that he still loves her, she still wants to date Ben. They come up with this idea that her parents could meet Henry and pretend to go out with Henry but instead meet Ben. Ben's dad finds out and forbids him from going.

At her house, Henry is mad at Ben for sleeping with Alice and plans to make revenge by going out with Dylan for real. So he forces her to stay home and have a real date. Dylan is furious with Henry, but they still remain friends. Dylan then finds out that Ben and Alice slept together. Later, she breaks up with Henry and tells Ben and Henry that she is transferring to a different school with her friends. She later in season 5B "It's A Miracle" It is discovered she misses Ben, so Leo and her father arranges for them to have dinner together. However Ben decides that he just wants to remain friends with her.


Ricky Underwood

Ben and Ricky have come to develop a strong relationship, however, this bond is continuously tested because of the rivalry between them. Ben could never let go of his grudge against Ricky for taking Amy away from him, which is showed by his insistence that Ricky and Amy will not end up together because they aren't in love with each other.

After both teens are given a job at the Boykewich family butcher shop, the two seem to have gained mutual respect for each other, however every so often, their friendship is tested, much to the annoyance of their boss, Bunny. Ben has admitted that Ricky getting Amy pregnant ruined his life whereas Ricky has never really seen Ben as a threat to him, especially during Amy's pregnancy.

Having both dated Amy and Adrian, Ben and Ricky were bound to clash. An example of this is in Lady Liberty when Ben gets into a scrap after Ricky refuses to disclose details about his weekend in New York, which results in the former getting fired. In addition to this, Ben sleeping with Adrian while she was with Ricky did more just than just fan the flames as it left Ben extremely remorseful and Ricky devastated.

In spite of this, there have been times where they have both offered an olive branch to the other. For example, Ricky has given Ben advice on his relationship with Amy on numerous occasions like when he wanted to break up with her for Maria and when Ben didn't know how to tell Amy about Adrian being pregnant. Ben was also very generous when he lent Ricky enough money to pay for the broken window in order to keep Ricky and John's relationship intact. Another example of this is when the two agree to squash their feud and work together for a common cause which was helping Amy raise the baby.

Henry Miller and Alice Valko

Ben has been friends with Henry and Alice since the third grade.

In the first episode, Alice pointed out Amy to Ben. In season 4, Henry breaks up with Alice and the two of them try to have "shared custody" of Ben which doesn't work out.

In the season 4 finale, Alice walks into a bedroom after a graduation party to find Henry in bed with Adrian. Angrily, she tells Ben what she found, and Ben tells Henry he is no longer welcome in his home.

In the season 4 finale episode "Love is Love", Alice and Ben sleep together to alleviate Ben's part in a fire at Dylan's school after a date.

It is later revealed that Alice slept with Ben to get back at Henry for sleeping with Adrian, Ben never admits it, but is shown that his reason for sleeping with Alice was similar.

When Henry later finds out from Alice, he is angry with them both. Henry tries to steal Dylan from Ben, but Dylan no longer has interest in either of them and breaks up with both of them, but they later reconcile and are friends again.